How to Find the Right Church for You

Navigating a new church can feel overwhelming. The culture, the people, the traditions; everything is unfamiliar. It’s easy to wonder if you fit in; and if people will accept you. Will you ever feel at home here?

I get it. Finding a new church can be stressful. That being said, if we’re not careful, a few negative responses can creep in. These responses can push us out the door before we’ve even given the community a chance. Here’s what to watch out for!

1. Lies That Make Us Doubt

Insecurity whispers that we’re not good enough. That we don’t belong. That we’re outsiders in a tight-knit family. These lies can convince us that we’ll never be accepted in a new church community.

Here’s the truth: It takes time. Trust is built through patience and consistent connection. Engage in conversation, listen to others’ stories, and allow people to get to know you. The warmth of a church community doesn’t always show up instantly, but that doesn’t mean it won’t grow.

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7)

2. Fear of Rejection in a New Church

That fear can make us hold back. We stick to surface-level small talk, keep our struggles hidden, and avoid deeper connections. We pretend everything’s fine when inside, we feel disconnected.

Instead of retreating, choose bravery. Step into the community, even when it feels uncomfortable. Embrace the reality that no church is perfect. Every church has strengths and weaknesses. Real relationships happen when we engage in the good, the bad, and the messy.

3. Sin That Pushes Us Away From Church

Cultural changes and discomfort can stir up unresolved struggles in our lives. Instead of facing them, we might convince ourselves that this church just isn’t the right fit. It’s easier to walk away than to deal with what God is revealing in our hearts.

Don’t ignore that conviction. Let the Holy Spirit do His work in you. If something is surfacing, bring it before God. Ask Him to shape you through the process rather than using discomfort as an excuse to leave.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

Lean on Christ Through the Transition

Relying on Christ is the key to pushing through the initial discomfort of navigating a new church. Authenticity in all areas of life will generate trust and open doors into the community. That doesn’t mean there won’t be challenges. And yet, new ideas and perspectives can lead to growth, for you and in the church.

God is faithful. He doesn’t place us in a church community without purpose. And He won’t give us more than we can bear. If He’s called you there, He’ll provide the grace you need to navigate the transition.

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Don’t give up too soon. You’re there for a reason. Stay the course until God makes it clear it’s time to move on.

Join the Conversation; Share Your Thoughts

• Have you ever struggled with feeling out of place in a new church? How did you handle it?
• What helped you break through the initial awkwardness and connect with others?
• How has God used a church transition to grow your faith?