HOW DESIRES FOR CONNECTION HAVE THE POTENTIAL FOR DESTRUCTION
We all experience loneliness.
We all desire deeper relational connection. First, we’re called to seek Christ. Second, they lead us toward friendship. And then, Lord willing, they lead us to love and marriage. All of this is beautiful and beneficial.
However, sometimes these feelings and desires can leave us facing temptation. And every once in a while, a connection is formed outside of what is considered appropriate.
In the beginning, the connection seems harmless. Then it can soon precipitate lustful desires. Soon enough, these desires develop into actions, which lead down a destructive path.
In worse case scenarios, without accountability, we might even start seeking out these connections so frequently, that they become habitual behaviour.
In 1 Kings, we read about a man who fell victim to exactly that.
“King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter—Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites. They were from nations about which the Lord had told the Israelites, ‘ ou must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.’ Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray.” (1 Kings 11:1-3)
Solomon’s lust turned habitual.
His habitual problem eventually pulled him away from his role and responsibilities. God had requested that Solomon lead the people of Israel, but Solomon was more concerned with setting up the first Playboy mansion. Surely Solomon would have remembered the blessing that David experienced by following God’s commands. In spite of that, his desires consumed his better judgment.
This morning, take some time to read through 1 Kings 11:13. Pay careful attention to how Solomon’s lust pulled him away from God and his responsibilities as king. Perhaps, spend some time in prayer? Maybe ask God to reveal your desires for connection? Are they appropriate? Are they based in loneliness or lust? Are they dangerous?
If so, take some notes on how you can re-route or end these connections today.
Join the Conversation; Share Your Thoughts
- How do you curb thoughts of loneliness and desires for deeper connection?
- What practices have you placed into your life to prevent inappropriate relationships?
I have been praying for an accountability partner for 4 years. The woman I thought would be a good partner, I have discovered may not be. Accountability is not an easy thing for many people to deal with. I will continue to pray.
Thanks for your comment Shawna, and thank you for taking valuable time out of your busy schedule to read this post!
Accountability is a tough thing. The partner needs to have consistency, a listening ear and the ability to address wrong thinking even if it means conflict may arise. It’s very difficult to find a person who is willing to go that distance!
Praying for you this morning.