It’s tough taking criticism.

Not so much when it’s given about a project or a set of plans. But what about our motives, or maybe even our character? Everything changes then, doesn’t it?

When we feel like our motives or character are being questioned, or maybe even attacked, it cuts deep. Add in digital communication, where people have become more emboldened with their critique, it can leave us feeling utterly worthless.

People are mean, but we should expect it.

As Christians, it comes with the territory to have our thoughts and ideas questioned. After choosing to follow Jesus, someone may question our character, because our lives will represent a contrast to what the world values or holds to be true.

After all, consider what Jesus taught about becoming His disciple.

“If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.”

John 15:18-19

Should we just give up?

Of course not! We need to change our perspective and cling to Biblical truth. For example, in the book of Proverbs, we see a small yet powerful verse:

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Proverbs 27:17

As we are challenged, we are sharpened, and therefore, more prepared for the next question or dispute, or maybe even the next attack.

What if the criticism holds true?

Having our character questioned or criticized may hurt, but it may be pointing to an area of struggle in our lives. It’s very difficult to accept criticism. Especially when it is not coming at us in a constructive way. However, the criticism may hold some truth, that we have a behavioural flaw that needs to be addressed.

We may have to accept the rebuke and choose to put ourselves under the sharpening stone. As we do, we should be constantly reminding ourselves that any and all rebuke, criticism or questioning of character, will provide growth for us as Believers.

Criticism will sharpen our character.

Today, we should consider the challenge that is laid out in this ancient Proverb. We should compare them with what we are facing this week in our work or ministry life. We should ask God to remind us of any current situations where our character may be in question.

Perhaps, we should write down the reason why that criticism hurts so bad? Maybe we should reflect on what we could do to learn from that criticism?

Here’s a couple of reflection questions to consider.

Join the Conversation; Share Your Thoughts

• Have you recently been criticized or has your character been put into question?
• How did that feel? How did you respond?
• Were you able to learn and grow from that situation?